Dynamic duos

More energy: chick peas (iron) & red pepper(vitamin c helps support
and absorb iron)

Better mood: broccoli(calcium) & eggs(vitamin d)

Slimmer waistline: pasta & balsamic vinegar(acidic acid blocks glucose
and starch, slash sugar load by 20%)

By dr oz show

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Rebecca YHB

Thankful for a sweet, loving, funny husband who is always willing to do the best he can. I love you!<3

Being selfish

Is it selfishness when somebody is upset because what he does for other people does not get him anything in return or is not appreciated?
for example, when I say I love a man, cook for him, do laundry for him, make gifts for him, help him in the house etc, and when he tells me that he needs more than just living a life day to day, I get upset because all I do everyday is working hard for us, and I don't feel appreciated, is that being selfish? when I give out of my own willingness, and expect to claim rewards is that a selfish heart?

i thought when you're willing to give, you're giving without expectation, right?

Thankful

Today I'm thankful for a fun day with my bestie Trudy :)
( Trip to Sammoon and Saigon mall and target where I found a perfect
christmas card for my hubby!)
She's a beautiful person inside and out, I'm so grateful for her
friendship and companion. Love u!

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Quick thought

If we treat as equal as those who treat us well, then what makes it
different that we're by God's grace forgiven and saved?

If we only see those who act righteous in our eye, then we're still
blind, aren't we?

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Test from bb

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our Prince of Peace

I have been subscribing to InTouch Ministry by Dr Charles Stanley and receiving their monthly letters. Every month he writes about a certain subject to us believers. I'd like to share this month's subject: Peace. As Christmas is near, secondly, I have to confess that my heart hasn't been very close to God, but wandered off with growing worldly desires. I'm thankful for this prompt letter to remind me what we should really be after.

There is a special word found throughout the Christmas story that should be very important and meaningful to you and I as we consider the birth of the Christ child. Used more than 400 times in Scripture, it is a term found interwoven in the prophecies of Jesus' coming as a special gift to us from God.


That wonderful word is peace.


In speaking about the Savior, the prophet Isaiah reported, " A child will be born to us,a son will be given to us; and the government will rest on His shoulders; and His name will be... Prince of Peace" (Isa. 9:6). Also, recall what the angels said the night Jesus was born: "there appeared...a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying,' Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among men with whom He is pleased'" (Luke 2:13-14).


Christmas can undoubtedly be one of the most joyous and revitalizing seasons of the year for us as believers. However, it can also be hectic and nerve-wracking--so much so that we lose our sense of security and tranquility, which is the very thing Jesus came to bring us.
So today I would like to ask you: In the hustle and bustle of Christmas, where do you go to find silence and stillness? Do you rejoice and rest in all that the Lord has given you? Or is this time of year characterized by impatience, agitation, conflict, and pain?
Many people believe the pathway of peace is through possessions---especially during the Christmas season. They believe that if they could just have the latest gadget, they would be happy. If they could only buy their loved ones the special objects they desire, then they could maintain harmony in their households. Sadly, this does not work. Worldly goods can never fill emptiness, give worth, or restore broken relationships.


My son, Andy, understood this from a very young age. I remember one evening when he was still in high school, we were sitting at dinner and he said to me, " Dad, I want to thank you for not giving us everything we wanted." Of course, this had me intrigued. I asked him why he felt this way. I will never forget his explanation:
"Many of my friends---well, their parents give them everything they want, and it's really messed them up," Andy replied. "they think that is all there is to life. Thank you for teaching me what is truly important." I was so thankful my son had learned this vital principle: Peace, joy and fulfillment come through Christ, not through possessions or anything else this world can offer.


So as Christmas approaches, how can you maintain genuine tranquility in the midst of all the activities and pressures of the season? How can you preserve harmony within yourself, with others, and most importantly, with the Father? Jesus said," Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful" (John 14:27). How can you take hold of all He offers?


First, realize that the peace of God originates from reconciliation with Him. The Greek word for peace is eirene, and it simply means, "to bind together." When you trust the Lord Jesus as your Savior, He binds you together with Himself for all eternity. You never need to worry about your salvation because He makes you right with the Father through His death on the cross---and no one can ever take that away from you.


Second, embrace the fact that Christ takes full responsibility for your needs as you obey Him. Earthly tranquility is often based on worldly resources, which can---and ultimately will---fail. So whenever you face situations that are beyond your abilities, talents, skills, and wealth to overcome, it is no wonder you feel overwhelmed, anxious, and discouraged. However, God is completely capable of helping you, regardless of your circumstances. Therefore, as a believer, you can calmly and joyfully trust Him, because you know that the One who is best able to give you the victory in every situation will never leave or forsake you.


Third, understand that the Father's peace is the result of your personal relationship with Him. When you feel apprehensive, what do you do? Do you rush about, trying to find solutions to your problems? Do you try silencing your anxieties by shopping, eating, working, or engaging in some destructive habit? It doesn't really help, does it? Friend, the Lord's presence has the power to calm your worries and drive out your fears (1 John 4:18). Whenever these concerns creep up this Christmas, consider it a call to spend time with Him.


When you spend time with the Lord, you realize He's got everything under control. And when you walk in the center of His will and learn to see your circumstances from His perspective, you experience the deepest, most wonderful tranquility---confident that He will work everything our for your good. Not only will you experience peace with the Father, but you'll also be a calming presence to those around you. You'll be able to handle the conflicts that arise with greater grace, wisdom, and composure.


This Christmas, instead of focusing on all the presents you must buy, think of the one you most need to receive---the gift of His peace. Surrender your life to the Prince of Peace---and enjoy the rest, tranquility, and hope He created you to enjoy.


Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas everybody!!

伤害 hurt

张小娴说过：男人对女人的伤害，不一定是他爱上了別人，而是他在她有所期待的時候让她失望，在她脆弱的時候没有扶她一把，在她成功的時候竟然妒忌她。


xiaoxian Zhang wrote: " when a man hurts a woman, it's not necessarily because he falls for another woman, but disappoint her when she expects from him the most; doesn't offer a hand when she is the weakest; and envy her when she succeed. "

From ordinary to great

... ...

" God isn't looking for impressive people; He wants willing ones who will bow the knee in humble submission.
Being weak and ordinary doesn't make you useless. Rather, it positions you for a demonstration of divine power
in your life. He takes insignificant ones and delights in making them great."

blood is always thicker

while we were busy being mad at each other, the last we wanted was a touch.
but a touch is so priceless after all when I realize there're not many days left for me to give you 
tender touches.
blood is always thicker than water, a sincere touch always wins anger.


I'm thankful for being able to touch you, and be touched by you.

26th, october, 2010

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

24th, Oct. 2010

more and more discounts are revealed between us, little things, little cracks we try to compromise and hide but they will eventually differentiate our two worlds.
We don't understand each other, without understanding there won't be care, without care, there won't be sacrifice, without sacrifice, there won't be resurrection.
however, my heart, hides in the deepest place, nobody, not even myself, has found it yet.

Dealing with manipulative people

from blog What really matters



If you think you may be dealing with a manipulative person, ask yourself these questions....

*Have your friends or family members remarked on how you don't seem like yourself since you entered this relationship? Are they looking at you sideways?

*Have your family relationships become filled with tension at the mention of the manipulator's name?

*Are the people who care about you the most getting worried about you?

*Have you severed ties to the familiar stability of the world you have known and placed the manipulator at the center of your universe?

*Are you losing your individuality and strength?

*Do you find yourself doing things you wouldn't ordinarily do?

*Have the goals and dreams that previously defined you all of a sudden been pushed to the back burner?

*Does the manipulator try to isolate you from your friends and family members?

*Are your attitudes changing to more closely mirror the manipulator's rather than who you really are?

*Do you willfully close your eyes to behavior that you know is wrong?

*Do you excuse the manipulator's behavior? Are you constantly defending him/her?

*Does it seem that it's always "all about him/her?"

*Does the manipulator know how to pull your strings? Do you find yourself doing things you really wish you hadn't?

*Does the manipulator try to take over your financial decisions?

*Do you find that you are being controlled or manipulated through half-truths or omissions? Are you slowly finding out that you have been lied to repeatedly?

*Does the manipulator in your life play the victim and blame others for his/her problems?

*Is there just enough weirdness to make you stop and think, but not quite enough to get you to re-evaluate the entire relationship?

*Are the manipulator's apologies shallow?

Here is some information that you should know if you are dealing with a manipulative person....

*Being in a relationship with a manipulative person is a destructive cycle.

*People in healthy relationships have nothing to hide or defend.

*Don't blow off the opinions of your friends and family. They have your best interests in mind. When you cut off your support system, it only helps the manipulator gain dominance over you.

*Compassion is not easily understood or accepted by manipulators. It will only hurt you more in the end.

*Manipulative people are often very insecure. The root of their selfish control is their own damaged self esteem.

*Don't try to point out the above warning signs to the manipulator. This type of person won't recognize it and you will only be wasting your time.

*This control doesn't happen overnight, but it happens subtly over a period of time. Manipulators will invest months or even years in "training" you to accept and carry out their will.

*Severely controlling and manipulative people often have clinical mental disorders. You cannot hope to change or rescue such a person. As much as you may care for them, the best help you can give them is to refuse to be their victim and direct them to professional help - although most of the time they won't admit they need help.

*Manipulators are legends in their own mind, but the truth eventually comes to light.

The safest place

In my heart
Your love has found
The safest hiding place
Inside is a field
And trees and a lake
Around is a wall
No-one from hell could break
In there you'll shine
In there you will cry
My heart has been a lonely warrior
Who's been to war
So you can be sure

careers for scorpios

Top 10 Careers for Scorpio - Finding an outlet for all that intensity isn't easy, but there are some highly unusual

specialities sure to appeal to this mysterious sign

Scorpio is well-suited to any career in which ambition, insight, and intelligence are important.
This is an employee who will be brilliant, perceptive, and hard working. They tend to be
difficult, but only when they perceive a situation to be superficial or when dealing with silly
people. They enjoy a quiet workplace that is away from distractions. They are not
temperamentally suited to a job that is highly visible and in front of the public, unless they
are totally in charge. Scorpios prefer a career that allows them the opportunity to work hard
and to be passionate about what they do.

Scorpios do not like to be interrupted when they are working and need to be able to do
things on their own terms. The Scorpion is motivated by being able to do good work and
gaining a stellar reputation. This sign will wholeheartedly engage in all that they do, provided
that they are able to do things their way.

Scorpio may naturally gravitate toward any of the following careers:

Coroner:Scorpio is perfectly suited for this work, which could horrify others. They are not bothered by
working with a dead body and will investigate tirelessly to determine the cause of death and
other pertinent details. Scorpio has a surgeon's eye and a penchant for detective work that
matches the qualities needed in a Coroner. There is usually no need to comfort grieving
families or get into the emotional side of the case, because it is strictly science, but they
could easily handle it if necessary.


Private Investigator:The natives of this sign are naturally nosy individuals who love to discover secrets but value
highly their own privacy. All of this adds up to someone who is good at uncovering the crazy
stuff that others want to hide. The Scorpion is also great at working undercover and quietly
observing people and their activities. They are excellent researchers and won't give up until
they have all the facts. A penchant for revenge sometimes comes in handy.

Psychiatrist:The chance to hear the dirty laundry of countless clients and figure out their issues is the
kind of life that Scorpio lives for. Better to do it in a formal setting than become a voyeur or
creepy friend. Of course, there are also control issues involved and a healthy dose of
transference. Scorpio psychiatrists may be quick to blame everything on sexual problems
and may have to examine themselves first before pointing the finger.

Embalmer:With this career, Scorpios excel, not only because they are fascinated with the dead, but
also because they are ambitious and hard working. This is a lifetime career that is
demanding and stressful, but well suited to a Scorpio with endurance and fortitude. As with
being a coroner, they are able to marry science and anatomy with work that takes a lot of
dedication and a lack of squeamishness. This job also gives them the opportunity to work
alone.

Researcher:The Scorpion can be found in scientific labs, whether working for pharmaceutical
companies or doing research for private industry or government agencies. They have the
kind of mind that is able to penetrate the problem and come up with criteria to evaluate it that
will show results. There is a certain aspect of the Scorpion character that wants to be the
best, and when applied properly, will find a cure for a disease, the ultimate weight loss
solution, or a new form of birth control. Whatever the problem, they will find the answer or
improve on the solution.

Surgeon:The Scorpio native is intense and driven. They have a lot of endurance and a strong desire
to excel. These qualities allow them to be outstanding surgeons who eventually achieve an
impeccable reputation in the operating room. Inner strength and tenacity allow them to
persevere when it seems like all is lost. During medical school, they most likely have high
marks, a lot of pressure, and a huge number of one-night stands.

Sex Therapist:Of all the signs of the Zodiac, Scorpio is the obvious choice to work with people who have
hang-ups and dysfunction in the bedroom. The airing of dirty little secrets, sexual fantasies,
and embarrassing details does not deter dear Scorpio. In fact nothing is too shocking for
this personality. They have the ability to get to the root of the matter and help their clients to
make adjustments and work through problems.

Dominatrix:This career is not for everyone, but for those Scorpios with a strong personality and lots of
need for control, this job could be very lucrative and satisfying. There is the opportunity to
work from home, wear an interesting uniform, and work out some aggression. This is not for
the faint of heart or the passive, but can be a way to access the dark side without causing
too much harm.

Bill Collector:Another job that allows the nasty side of Scorpio to emerge is in collections. They can get
paid to abuse and cajole deadbeats and debtors eight hours a day and then go home to
relax in front of the fire. Empty threats and daily harassment are the tools of the trade,
requiring a lot of dogged determination and a will to succeed. They are not daunted at all by
people who don't answer the phone or open their mail, and will find a way to get to them.
Hypnotist:Scorpio loves being in control and is fascinated by the unconscious. When acting
responsibly, this career could be perfect for them. Working with clients who want to shake
bad habits, they are able to make hypnotic suggestions, which are effective in dealing with
these problems. Some people are looking to remember past lives or hidden memories. The
Scorpion is the master of secrets and hidden things.

 

scorpio quotes

1) Never expect things to happen..struggle and make them happen.

never expect yourself to be given a good valuecreate a value of your own

2) I f a drop of water falls in lake there is no identity.But if it falls on a leaf of lotus it shine like a pearl.so choose the best place where you would shine..

3) Falling down is not defeat...defeat is when your refuse to get up...

4) Ship is always safe at shore... but is is not built for it

5) When your successful your well wishers know who you are when you are unsuccessful you know who your well wishers are

6) It is great confidence in a friend to tell him your faults; greater to tell him/her

7) "To the world you might be one person,

but to one person you just might be the world

8) "Even the word 'IMPOSSIBLE' says 'I M POSSIBLE' "

9) Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life makes all the difference.

Future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams

We Have the...Power. .. Within us!!!

Keep your thoughts positive, 
because your thoughts become your words.

Keep your words positive, 
because your words become your actions.

Keep your actions positive, 
because your actions become your habits.

Keep your habits positive, 
because your habits become your lifestyle.

Keep your lifestyle positive, 
because your lifestyle becomes your destiny

I'm proud to be a scorpio

there's description of how astrology was used when baby Jesus was born. It's believable and makes sense to me always as a second opinion.

I'm a scorpio, and I'm proud of it. :)

found some information about general personalities, of course each scorpio is different in their unique way :)


Personality: Controlling your rolling temper is the best measure to take, if you would like your friends to remain beside you. Other than that your chirpy personality gravitates people toward you.

Love Tendency: Even when it comes to men, you are direct and honest. If you like them you tell them and if you don't, you tell them too. You don't see anything in front of you once you fall deeply in love with someone. This might be a time of happiness for you but friends and family around you worry about you constantly that you are too involved in this relationship. You have to learn how to balance this and your other responsibilities.

Life: You are destined for a great future. A charming family and husband will be a part of this life. But don't expect everything to be too content with your life but rather expect the unexpected. Otherwise, things will hit you with a fry pan out of nowhere. Another suggestion is to be wise where you spend your money. You tend to relieve your stress by means of shopping but try not spend it on frivolous items.

The Scorpio female is an independent soul. She possesses a forbidding, keep-your-distance manner that often hides a secretive and sensitive heart. This is a woman who will risk all for love and not count the cost, but can become bitterly disappointed if her judgment is proved wrong. Undeniably romantic by nature, she demands the near-impossible of those she loves. However, this female is quick to assess personalities and situations, able to put her finger on the crux of a question or circumstance immediately, seeing through all the dross, ignoring the veneer and getting to the truth. In addition, this woman is often at least a little psychic. She will make a number of good friends, usually keeping them all her life, and her sympathy and understanding are extended to all who come in contact with her. Still, the woman ruled by Scorpio does make for a formidable enemy. She rarely creates animosity willingly, but is sometimes driven into situations that make her the center of some manifestation of jealousy. The contradiction of the Scorpio female character is rather puzzling to some people and endlessly fascinating to others. Outwardly, this always seems to be a relatively selfish woman who gives the appearance of self-centeredness in her concentration on personal affairs and the affairs of loved ones. Still, she can be capable of incredible self-sacrifice. In essence, no two acquaintances will ever view this female in the same manner for she will present a different facet of her personality to each one. As a sweetheart, the Scorpio female is exciting. As a life partner, she is appealing in her determination to be the best possible companion. As a mother, she will be both understanding and disciplinary.
Basically an old-fashioned individual, the woman ruled by Scorpio is loyal and courageous. She enjoys responsibility and is very capable. With a great love of luxury, she possesses considerable taste in home furnishings and other aesthetics. The difference in the atmosphere will very much depend on this female's intensity of feelings. She is a blunt and fearless character, doing everything passionately from the depths of her heart. Her devotion to loved ones is whole-hearted and can almost verge upon idolization at times. Rarely shy by nature, the Scorpio woman has a very healthy appetite for the physical aspect of a romantic relationship.

Scorpio Strength Keywords:

- Loyal
- Passionate
- Resourceful
- Observant
- Dynamic
Scorpio Weakness Keywords:

- Jealous
- Obsessive
- Suspicious
- Manipulative
- Unyielding
Scorpio and Independence:

Scorpios are fiercely independent. They are able to accomplish anything they put their mind to and they won't give up. They are perfectly suited to being on their own. They are not social butterflies like some other zodiac signs and some actually prefer to live on their own that way there is never any issue of who controls what at home, they like to be in control.

Scorpio and Friendship:

Relationships with Scorpio are always complicated, just like the person, their relationships are a series of extremes, they can even be downright moody for no apparent reason. Scorpios are known for their possessiveness and jealousy but on the other hand, they are extremely loyal. Scorpios have an excellent memory and combined with an inability to let things go, they can hold a grudge against someone who did them harm forever, in fact a Scorpio rarely if never forgives and forgets. They will even go as far as get vengeance on the person. On the other hand, they will always remember a kind gesture forever and repay it. Any kind selfless gesture done to a Scorpio will gain trust and respect which is extremely important to them in any relationship, either romantic or not. The best advice is to be honest with a Scorpio friend and in return, you will gain an amazing friend you will never forget and who will be loyal to you and never make false promises. Their truthful and shocking sense of humor if different than that of any other zodiac sign and the Scorpio makes an amazing, powerful interesting friend that can be trusted.
Scorpio and Business:

Scorpios make excellent doctors, surgeons, scientists and leaders, they are perfectly suited to any form of business that makes a difference in the world, greatly impacts people and society and a most importantly, Scorpio has to be in a power position, this is why these careers are suited to the Scorpio, they all demand one person in supreme control giving orders and leading a unit of people/practices. In business, Scorpios tend to easily gather wealth, they make very wise business decisions and they are very conservative about spending their money. Scorpios are known for making money and hiding it, they will not announce it due to to fear that others will take the same route and becoming a possible competitor, or worse try to use the Scorpio to their advantage to use them for their money.
Scorpio and Temperament:

Scorpios are extremely ambitious, persistent and determined which is shown through a power hungry, controlling attitude. Not in a stubborn sense however, because a Scorpio will work for what they want and control will justified reasons. This is obvious to any onlooker. A Scorpio never gives up, they are so determined to reach their goal. The key to this success is their flexibility. They are able to re-survey a situation and take a different approach if necessary. This makes them very adaptable and versatile. Scorpios are fierce competitors, combined with their powers of observation and their excellent memory, they will recall facts and when necessary, bring them to the table at the time of need. They will win justly, with proper facts and arguments to support their thoughts and opinions. Scorpios are excellent at restoring order to a chaotic situation and they are just as capable of manipulating for their own greed and benefit. The un-evolved Scorpio is a very dangerous person because they use their powers to benefit only them and step on other people in order to satisfy their own greed.
Scorpio Deep Inside:

Scorpio is the most misunderstood of all astrology signs. They are all about intensity and contradictions. They like to be aware of a situation and always know what's going on, figuring this out with their probing mind, on the other hand, they are interested in the occult, the paranormal, conspiracy theories and other types of similar unknown mysteries. They are very capable of hiding their true feelings and motivations, they often have ulterior motives or a hidden agenda.
Scorpios are all about control, they need to be in control at all times. To be out of control is very threatening, even dangerous to the Scorpio's psyche, when they control, they feel safe.
Scorpios are very emotional, their emotions are intensified, both good emotions and bad. Negative emotions of jealousy and resentment are hallmarks of this turbulent astrology sign. On the other side, Scorpios are well known for their forceful and powerful drive to succeed and their amazing dedication. Scorpios are constantly trying to understand their emotions through finding a deeper purpose in life.
Scorpios are very intuitive, but not as in a psychic sense, more as intuitive into the human mind, they have a great understanding of the mystery and the power of the human mind.
Scorpios have a fear of failure which they keep hidden extremely well, should their confrontation not be successful, or their career fail, they will simply use their adaptive skill to quickly move and and leave the bad experience behind. Do not ever expect them to fess up or share their tale with anyone however because this shows signs of weakness and Scorpio always wins, they are always the self-proclaimed best! One of the reasons they seem like they always accomplish their goals is because they set tangible short-term goals that they know they can accomplish, they know what they are capable of and this is what they go for.
Scorpios are very weary about trusting anyone, a person needs to gain their trust and this gets built up over time and once all the 'trust tests' have been passed, Scorpio loves deeply and intensely. Underneath the cool exterior, energies and emotions are constantly flowing but the Scorpio deals with this be channeling this into useful activities, hobbies, relationships or a career. This is never apparent to the outside observer but knowing this fact explains why Scorpios are so passionate about whatever it is that they are undertaking. Scorpios have powerful instincts and they trust their own gut feeling which is another reason why a Scorpio seldom fails.
The ongoing lesson in life for those born under the Scorpio zodiac signs, is to channel their powerful energy into positive goals and not succumbing to the darker forces in life such as manipulation and greed, they will then have great success in their life and have a clean, happy conscience and a circle of friends they can trust and hold dear to them.
Scorpio in a Nutshell:

Scorpio is the astrology sign of extremes and intensity. Scorpios are very deep, intense people, there is always more then meets the eye. They present a cool, detached and unemotional air to the world yet lying underneath is tremendous power, extreme strength, intense passion and a strong will and a persistent drive. Scorpios have a very penetrative mind, do not be surprised if they ask questions, they are trying to delve deeper and figure things out and survey the situation. They always want to know why, where and any other possible detail they can possibly know. Scorpio's are very weary of the games that other people try to play and they are very aware of it. Scorpios tend to dominate and control anyone that lets them, or anyone that they find weak. The person that a Scorpio respects and holds close to them is treated with amazing kindness, loyalty and generosity. On the outside, a Scorpio has great secretiveness and mystery. This magnetically draws people to them. They are known to be controlling and too ambitious but only because they need control for this makes them feel safe.

Slogan: I Desire, Therefore I am.

GENERAL CHARACTERISTICS:
The Scorpio woman can be extremely secretive by nature; she can be a very trusted friend or, alternatively, she can be a most fearsome enemy.
The Scorpio sign is the most mysterious and intense sign of the zodiac and, in keeping with those qualities, the Scorpio woman has an ability to penetrate into the very essence of another person’s being. She has been endowed with a pair of the most piercing of eyes to achieve that purpose!
The sign Scorpio is the sign that is most closely related to the most feared and most fascinating aspects of life - that of Death and Sex.
Both of these aspects “Death and sex” are filled with, and associated with the power of the unknown and, both are also extraordinarily transforming in nature.
The positive and wise Scorpio woman will use sex as a healing tool; will always view sexuality within the context of love and, will never confuse one with the other.
Alternatively, the negative Scorpio woman will abuse sex, and will manipulate her personal magnetism in order to gain power and control over others.
This is the most rejuvenating of all the signs, allowing the Scorpio girl to recover and rise up after every crisis and to perfect herself through out her struggles of refinement.
MONEY & FINANCES:
The positive Scorpio woman is one who knows how to make money and, in particular for others, from which she in turn, can derive her own income.
In this respect the Scorpio woman can be very successful in such vocations as that of investment banker, financial counsellor, stockbroker, or business agent. She is also an expert at recycling and making the most out of the least.
Contrary to the positive aspect, the negative Scorpio girl can be a constant borrower and, one who is unlikely to ever repay that which she might owe.
Until the Scorpio girl can appreciate, understand and accept that true wealth lay in knowing how to circulate resources, she will remain as a somewhat tight-fisted person of cheap outlook in life.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS:
A Scorpio woman is very sexually aware, and for some, the sexual aspect of any relationships will totally dominate her common sense. This can result in her finding herself in somewhat compromising situations due to the fact that her passions have been so highly stimulated and, to the very point of total obsession.
In astrology Scorpio is referred to as the sign of frozen fire. This indicates that our Scorpio girl contains an enormous amount of inner power just waiting to be released.
Many Scorpio women find that this frozen fire represents sexual repression as they struggle to release their sexuality in healthy and holistic ways.
In general, the Scorpio women is very faithful to the people they love, however they can also portray the considerably strong traits for over possessiveness and jealousy within their relationships.
Cancer, Pisces, and Capricorn are the signs most compatible to the Scorpion woman. Virgos can make good friendships and a Libra combination can be very romantic.
Taurus, Leo, Aquarius, and Aries can present a real challenge to the Scorpio girl as indeed those of signs Sagittarius and Gemini who may not prove the easiest to get along with.

The Scorpion/Eagle
Modality: Fixed Element: Water Ruler: Pluto, Mars Season: Fall 8th Sign of Zodiac	Metal: Steel, Iron Stone: Topaz, Opal Color: Gold, Purple Anatomy: Genital organs, bladder, bowels	Keywords: passionate, perceptive, resourceful, possessive, psychological, prowling, determined, probing, fixed, focused.

Comparison with the Scorpio symbol, the Scorpion:

Scorpions have "two lobster-like claws"(1) and when a scorpion captures its victims with its claws, it "inflicts a disabling sting with its tail"(2) Scorpios are thought to be rather cunning, and sometimes revengeful.

Dual nature of Scorpio: A second symbol for Scorpio is the Eagle. The Golden Eagle "has been regarded from ancient times as a symbol of courage and power". (3) The eagle represents clear vision, intelligence, and power. It is a majestic bird, and also symbolizes freedom. Scorpios, with their perceptiveness, have the potential to "see" things more clearly than others. How they handle the power of this vision will depend on whether they are at the level of a scorpion or an eagle!

Scorpio's glyph, or symbol, looks like a letter M with a tail. The curves show the grounded nature of the sign, ending in an upward-turned arrow, symbolizing the need for action and the striving for something higher. Some believe the symbol represents the male genitals -- the sign of Scorpio is strongly connected to sex.

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Sun in Scorpio

(The Sun is in Scorpio from approximately October 23 to November 21, depending on the year.) Scorpios are known for their intensity. They are determined folk that absolutely throw themselves into whatever they do -- but getting them to commit to something is rarely an easy task. In fact, it's better not to even try to "get them" to do anything. Solar Scorpios absolutely have their own mind. And, their primary motivation is unlikely to be prestige (like their Capricorn friends), or even authority (Leos can have that, too)--it's real power. Their power can absolutely be of the "behind the scenes" variety, just as long as they have it. To others, Scorpios seem to have plenty of willpower. They probably do. Scorpios do know what they want, and they won't go out and grab it at the wrong moment. They simply sit back, watch (quite expertly), and then get it only when the moment is just right. This apparent patience is simply their powerful skills at strategy at work. Scorpio isn't afraid of getting their hands (their bodies, their minds) dirty. The darker side of life intrigues them, and they're always ready to investigate.  Scorpios simply never give up. They have tremendous staying power. They're not in the slightest intimidated by anybody or anything. Confrontations are not a problem. In fact, talk to any Scorpio about their lives, and you'll probably be in awe at all they've gone through. Trauma seems to follow them wherever they go. When Scorpio learns optimism, instead of expecting the worst, they'll find that they possess amazing regenerative powers -- the power to heal, create, and transform.   Some Famous people with Sun in Scorpio:  Ed Asner (Sun, Mercury, Venus, Mars, and Ascendant in Scorpio), Lauren Bessette (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), Bjork (Sun and Moon in Scorpio), Lisa Bonet (Sun and Mercury in Scorpio), John Cleese (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Jamie Lee Curtis, Danny DeVito, Leonardo DiCaprio (Sun, Venus, and Mars in Scorpio), Richard Dreyfuss (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Sally Field, Bill Gates, Calista Flockhart, Jodie Foster (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Whoopi Goldberg (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), John Gotti (organized crime boss - Sun and Mercury in Scorpio), Harry Hamlin (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), Ethan Hawke (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio, Shere Hite (who published the Hite Report on Sexuality - Sun, Venus, and Mars in Scorpio),Rock Hudson, Demi Moore (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Pablo Picasso, Prince Charles, Puff Daddy (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Julia Roberts (Sun and Mercury in Scorpio), Meg Ryan (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), David Schwimmer (Sun, Moon, and Venus in Scorpio), Nicolette Sheridan, Maria Shriver

Moon in Scorpio

While others may find security and comfort in material things, Moon in Scorpio people seek out emotional intensity. No matter what, there is something very intense about Lunar Scorpios. They are diggers when it comes to the world of emotion--they can see beyond facades and cut right to the core of a person. This ability to "see" what isn't obvious to the rest of the world can be intimidating to others or wildly attractive, depending on the audience.  Their deep-seated need for transformation and rebirth can manifest itself in the lives of Lunar Scorpios in different ways. Most have powerful, emotionally intense lives. Some feel like it is beyond their control -- these natives seem to attract emotional upheaval, and their lives appear to consist of plenty of dramatic ups and downs. However, when accepted as an emotional need, rebirth and change doesn't need to be so dramatic and overwhelming. In some way or the other, Moon in Scorpio natives seek out intense experiences. If their lives are regular in any way, there can be an unconscious need to test their own strength and stir up emotional excitement. Self-awareness and acceptance is probably the best way to handle this deep need for emotional drama.  Doing things halfway or having meaningless relationships simply doesn't fulfill them. Lunar Scorpios want all or nothing. Moon in Scorpio people often have a strong fear of betrayal. They seek out commitment, and feel the need for a partner to give up something for them. Some will put the people they love through a series of tests, and these are not always conscious. Their apparent suspicion can be trying for the people who love them. However, once committed, Moon in Scorpio people can be the most loyal and protective partners around. Even the shy ones have enormous presence. Their lives are emotion-driven, yet many Moon in Scorpio natives spend a lot of time controlling and mastering their emotions. Their intuition is enormous, although it is sometimes self-serving.  Moon in Scorpio people radiate strength. Even in the absence of experience, they seem to "just know" things. It would be difficult to shock or scare away Lunar Scorpios in the face of emotional honesty and power. Some people instinctively want to lean on them, and other less brave folk run a little scared. Lunar Scorpios have exceptional "radar" that allows them to size up a situation--and a person--quickly and expertly. This ability to understand human motivation and nature can be too close for comfort for some, and enormously comforting for others. Many Lunar Scorpios are intelligent and astute. Those that use their enormous powers for intimacy and honesty are the happiest, and they make the most interesting and rewarding friends and lovers. Some Famous people with Moon in Scorpio:  Ben Affleck,  Lauren Bessette (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), Bjork, Shannen Doherty, Eminem, Whoopi Goldberg (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), Harry Hamlin (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Scorpio), Elizabeth Hurley, Avril Lavigne, Alanis Morissette, David Schwimmer (Sun, Moon, and Venus in Scorpio), Steven Spielberg (Moon and Venus in Scorpio), Patrick Stewart

Mercury in Scorpio

These people are on an eternal quest to get to the very heart of any matter. This appears in anything that requires thought, and in almost every conversation they have. Totally fearless when it comes to delving into depths that nobody else wants, or even thinks, to explore, Mercury in Scorpio is adept at learning the source and the core of any problem or issue. They are blessed (or cursed, depending on how you want to look at it) with the observation skills of a surveillance camera, seeming to just see all and know all. Sometimes they can be quite "dark" because of their tendency to focus on the false in order to get to the truth. These people detest superficiality. They come across as suspicious and can annoy other, more optimistic people with their negative take on things. Scorpio communicators are passionate in their speech, sometimes even given to lecturing. Remember, though, that they are just as passionate about giving you real advice and help. They are quite willing to let you in on a few of their secrets--regarding other people, that is, not themselves. The truth is, they have observed things that many have not. If their observations seem a little bit skewed toward the negative, try to overlook it. You may just discover that they've given you some of the best advice around. They are at their best when they are talking about things that they are not personally involved with. That is when their shrewd judgment shines. It is when they are personally involved that their judgment can get clouded over. Their intelligence is absolutely instinctive. Strategies are their specialty. Their idea of constructive criticism can be interpreted as destructive criticism, depending on their audience. It can be very hard to win an argument or debate with Mercury in Scorpio. They are absolutely driven to win, not just for the sake of scoring intellectual points, but simply to come out on top in general. Besides that, it is hard to deny that their thinking is really quite lucid, at least in presentation. You may be gritting your teeth, but it will be hard not to concede. They'll staunchly support and defend anyone they care about. And, their energy in speech (or sheer intensity) can be motivating. You may walk away from a Mercury in Scorpio native, after they've given an impassioned speech, saying "whew!" But you'll generally have received an awesome pep talk, if they like you. The pep talk may have been at someone else's expense, however (they may have torn someone else apart to boost you up, for example). Scorpio's take on people often has to do with motivations. Often, they feel people are motivated by jealousy. They should know, if they are also Scorpio Sun and/or Venus Scorpio, because they have lived it. They are naturally suspicious, expecting bad intentions first. Mercury in Scorpio people love intrigue, mystery, and hidden motives. If they don't channel this interest into mental pursuits, they can end up creating their own mysteries. Others might start wondering if they are paranoid.  Mercury in Scorpio loves anything that challenges the brain and are often interested in what makes people tick. Some Famous people with Mercury in Scorpio:  Tyra Banks, Lauren Bessette, Lisa Bonet, John Cleese, E. E. Cummings, Walt Disney, Richard Dreyfuss, Zac Efron (Mercury and Venus in Scorpio), Sarah Ferguson, Jodie Foster (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Whoopi Goldberg, John Lennon, Demi Moore, Sinead O'Connor, Pablo Picasso, Puff Daddy, Julia Roberts (Sun and Mercury in Scorpio), Jean-Claude Van Damme (Mercury and Venus in Scorpio)

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in Scorpio people attract others with their intensity and willingness to commit. They have a strong and concentrated manner which suggests their feelings run deep. Their actions in love tend to promise deep commitment and sexual pleasure, even if they are not telling you this directly. Their appeal lies in their focus on you, and their dedication. Venus in Scorpio seems fearless when it comes to intimacy. Potential lovers get the feeling that Venus in Scorpio will never stray, that they are intensely loyal to the one they love. They possess you, and somehow make it seem attractive to be possessed.  Venus in Scorpio men and women give you their complete attention. These people are very focused on their partners. Depending on your personality, you may find this unnerving or entirely flattering. They have a strong need to control their partner, although this won't be immediately apparent, and they may not ever admit to this. Their body-and-soul love and commitment can be so intense that it eclipses fun and makes loving them a very heavy experience. Their emotion and intensity may seem overdone to those looking for a more lighthearted relationship. These people take things to extremes, and can be very provocative. Although they want to explore all of your nooks and crannies, they won't always be forthcoming with their own. When you've upset these lovers, you'll know it. Depending on the moment, Venus in Scorpio will shoot you one of the most piercing glares around, or totally blow up. Whichever style they choose, a slighted Scorpio lover is not a pretty sight. These people can be jealous of all of your attachments, but few will admit it. They're not afraid of being underhanded in matters of the heart, and they are experts at cutting through all the fluff and seeing you for what you are. Still, you may find their conclusions about you seem skewed and mistrustful. Pleasing Venus in Scorpio involves demonstrating your complete commitment and loyalty to them. Appreciate their guts when it comes to love and intimacy -- they're proud of their courage in these matters. If you can, and they're deserving, relinquish some of the control in the relationship. Let them feel they own you, without taking it to extremes. Remember, though, that some Venus in Scorpio lovers can and will take advantage of you on a subtle level, if only to keep you all to themselves. Let them have their secrets and their silences.  Some Famous people with Venus in Scorpio:  Matt Damon, Leonardo DiCaprio (Sun, Venus, and Mars in Scorpio), Kirk Douglas, Zac Efron (Mercury and Venus in Scorpio), Jodie Foster (Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Scorpio), Bill Gates, Shere Hite (sex researcher, published the Hite Report), Katie Holmes, Avril Lavigne, Annie Lennox, Demi Moore, Puff Daddy, Susan Sarandon (Venus and Mars in Scorpio), David Schwimmer, Alicia Silverstone, Steven Spielberg (Moon and Venus in Scorpio), Jean-Claude Van Damme (Mercury and Venus in Scorpio), Tiger Williams

Mars in Scorpio

Mars in Scorpio natives love to challenge themselves to do the impossible. They throw themselves into what they decide to do with concentrated energy and awesome willpower.  These people make formidable opponents, although often quietly so. They keep their cool and their equilibrium on the surface. Below the surface may be another story, and they are unlikely to easily let you in. Mars in Scorpio has the potential to exploit others -- these people see through others, and rely heavily on their gut feelings.  The sexual stamina of this position is thought to be the strongest of all the positions of Mars. Sometimes, Mars in Scorpio people are attracted to taboos, and their fantasies may involve blowing the taboos to smithereens! They enjoy scenarios in which the "other" is giving in to them, wants them completely, and will do absolutely anything for them. And, their sexual appeal is strong enough that they generally do get what they want.  They find it difficult to share their partners, though they will likely never admit this. In stark contrast to Mars in Libra, who is most comfortable with the middle ground, Mars in Scorpio has a black-or-white philosophy of life. These are the people who say, "Just choose!" They really are not comfortable with compromise--what kind of satisfaction could you possibly get from compromise? Real living, to Mars in Scorpio, is all about accepting challenges and making changes. These people constantly test themselves, and, often, others. They make all kinds of rules and goals, just for the personal satisfaction that comes from achieving or mastering them. Their survival instincts are strong, and they embrace their own animal nature when they are all alone with themselves, without guilt. These people have a provocative quality to them. This quality is usually most evident in youth, though it is often carried over into adulthood in more subtle, controlled ways.  Mars in Scorpio natives who have low self-esteem can become mighty twisted. Instead of beating themselves up, they turn self-loathing outward, and end up manipulating others and feeling resentful. While Mars in Libra is constantly striving to bring fairness to the world, Mars in Scorpio knows that life simply isn't fair.  Some Famous people with Mars in Scorpio:  Jennifer Aniston, Billy Bragg, Leonardo DiCaprio (Sun, Venus, and Mars in Scorpio), Mel Gibson, John Goodman, Shere Hite (sex researcher, published the Hite Report), Susan Sarandon (Venus and Mars in Scorpio), Howard Stern, Oprah Winfrey

Scorpio Ascendant

Scorpio Ascendant people have a lot of presence. There is something about them that tells the world that they are not to be pushed around. Their manner commands respect, and in some cases, fear. Scorpio rising people can be quiet or loud, but they always seem powerful and determined.  You either love or hate Scorpio rising people— they are rarely people who go through life unnoticed. In fact, some of them are confused when faced with the fact that they get such strong reactions from others. They seem to look right through people, seeing through superficiality. This can be quite intimidating to some, and intriguing to others. Scorpio rising people, in their dealings with others, look for answers by reading between the lines. Surface details are discarded when they are getting a feel for people and situations around them.  Scorpio rising people value their privacy so much, it can border on paranoia. They have a strong need to control their environment and are experts at strategy. Rarely people who will blow their chances with impatience, they plan out their moves carefully and deliberately, relying on their awesome ability to feel out others and situations. Scorpio rising natives are drawn to down-to-earth, natural partners. Reliability in their partner is very important. They generally look for complete commitment and have little patience with flighty partners. More on Scorpio Rising. Celebrity examples of Scorpio Ascendant include Sean Penn, Martha Stewart, Prince, Ed Asner, Susan Dey, Chris Evert, and Penny Marshall.

early mid-age crisis?

Have you ever felt intimidated by, someone younger, prettier, fresher, more lovely, nicer? that person seems to have it all. you can't help but comparing yourself to her/him and then you suddenly feel worthless, useless, ugly, your self esteem gets lower every time you see that person.
Is this a crisis? if so, what kind? if not, what is it?

I know being a child of God, you aren't supposed to think this way, but the wave hits you so hard and sudden you lose balance. who is there to pull you up? what if the one you expect to help you get up from the fall disappears or laughs at you? I'm only a human, not saint after all. 

Battle we will NOT lose

give me a sword to fight the demon,
stand behind me so I don't tumble,
when the time is right, alert set,
more and more blood will be shed.


总有一只又一只不停寻找机会来攻击的怪兽钻进脑子里,
打破平静阻扰交通炸裂情绪.
而有位至高的主, 祂叫耶稣基督. 手中握有魔力的刃剑
不时的为我们战胜黑暗.


求你将火平息, 赐我平安喜乐, 我跟随你, 背上我的十字架,
无论道路多艰辛, 你永远是我主.
去除我心中苦闷忧愁和不满, 把祝福带给需要爱的人.
感谢袮为我祷告. 爱我. 等待我.

the seven year itch coming weekend

I didn't know there's a same saying in English as well until my sister in law told me " prepare for the seven year itch.." I laughed out loud.


Culture is an interesting subject. really interesting.

here's what I found the "seven year itch" means:

The seven-year itch

Meaning

The inclination to become unfaithful after seven years of marriage.

Origin

The Seven Year Itch is best-known to us as the title of the 1955 film, starring Marilyn Monroe and Tom Ewell and directed by Billy Wilder. The plot of has Ewell's character working for a company that is about to publish a book suggesting that a many men have extra-marital affairs after seven years of marriage - called the "7-Year Itch". The film contains one of the most famous images in cinema history - Monroe's dress blowing up over a subway grating. That supposed urge for infidelity after seven years of marriage is the meaning we now have for this phrase. It is now often extended to refer to an urge to move on from any situation, and not even limited to those of seven years' duration.

George Axelrod, who wrote the play on which the film was based, didn't coin the phrase though. It came from an earlier US source. The original seven-year itch wasn't a condition that supposedly began after seven years, but one that supposedly lasted for seven years. Seven-year itch had been known in the USA since the early 19th century as the name of a particularly irritating and contagious skin complaint. The name was well enough known by 1845 for the condition to be used as a metaphor for all that is annoying. For example, this item from that year, from the Wisconsin Herald and Grant County Advertiser:

"When Illinois caught Mormonism off Missouri, she caught something worse than the seven year itch. Job sitting in the ashes and scratching himself amongst the potsherds, was infinitely more comfortable than poor Illinois now is, burning and festering under the scab of Mormonism."

The condition, which was bacterial in nature - causing highly irritating red pimples on the face and body, is now so easily treated as to have been virtually forgotten. In the 19th and early 20th centuries though it was viewed as being so bad that it was used as an appropriate imagined punishment for antisocial behaviour - "he should be given the seven-year itch and not be allowed to scratch". The difficulty of getting any relief from the condition was also expressed in the simile - "as close as the seven-year itch".

In a sad parallel of more recent criminal cases involving people who have been maliciously infected with the HIV virus (called 'revenge sex'), the Iowa State Pressreported this in November 1903:

"Brahm vs. Corey - an action brought by the plaintiff to recover damages because of an attack of the 'seven year itch'. A contagious disease which, it is claimed, was communicated purposely by the plaintiff to he defendant."

The complaint was also known as camp itch or army itch and was associated with the US army where, around the turn of the 20th century, it was considered to be so rife that civilians would cross the street to avoid being near soldiers. Following discharge from the army in Europe after WWI many soldiers made their way to Paris, where the condition spread, under the pseudonym ofFrench itch.

Relief was at hand though. By 1920 adverts like this were appearing in US newspapers and subsequently printed records that refer to seven-year itch diminished, until the 1955 film was released and the term began a new life.